Happy Birthday Anthony, Now Hurry Up!

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What's up, everyone? Welcome to the Anthony Eamon Show. Today we're gonna talk about my least favorite topic. No, but really, we're gonna talk about turning another age older. So happy birthday to me, I guess. Right full days of 36.

Yep.

Yao, what does your birthday mean to you?

Um, another blessing on the earth to still go after my dream, to spend every day with the or spend every day and talk to the people I love, my kids. Um, and just the let's just get straight to it. But the the main thing is change. The ability to still change. Because once you're done, it's done. Can't change. So if you have an addiction, you pass away, that's it. I mean, if you wanted to achieve something, you want to reconcile a relationship, you pass away, that's it. If you wake up every day, you have a chance. But when the birthday hits, I mean I went through a full cycle, full year of the day I was born, I got another chance at this. Because you don't know when your last day is. And the scary thing is, I always say it, every year we pass our death date. Every year. Your death date may be today, Anthony, five years from now. God forbid. You don't know when it is. So when your birthday's here, you celebrate it, man. But Anthony feels differently.

I live in a world, and maybe it's just because of how I innately feel personally about where I am and where I'm going, that I'm running out of time, and a birthday's a stab of how fickle time is, and another year is gone, and I'm not where I want to be. And maybe that's a burden for having extreme views, or what some people would call extreme, but where I want to go and where I want to be, and how far away those goals feel. And I do understand 1% better every day gets to 365% better every year. But I am I need to do bet more and better than that because I feel like I screwed up my 20s.

Oh, is it so even though you feel like you screwed up your 20s, isn't it a blessing to be alive at 36? You should have a chance, redemption.

It's a blessing to be alive, it's a blessing to do better, but it I have so much more left in me as far as the output I can give. And it's funny, you end up living the same reminders, and you I'm just gonna give a specific example to really tie this in. When you're building a business, you build your mission, right? Your company and your mission and value and your core values, and you break down your core values, and we have eight of them here at redefined, but one of them is the one I'm obsessed with. And it's speed. Speed to me is everything. And now we tie this into the burden. I was about to say, yeah, come on now. I'm realizing the older I get, I'm moving too slow. And realistically, I can move at speed so much quicker than I have in the past. But people will say speed is necessarily a bad thing. I disagree. Recklessness is a bad thing. Yeah, speed is not a bad thing. It's take playing an instrument, for example, right? Let's say learning how to play the guitar. Initially, to strike a couple of good notes, it takes you a lot of energy, a lot of thought to strike those notes. But when you get good at that guitar, all of a sudden you're pumping notes out a lot quicker, you're not thinking about your going. Now you're building more into the routine. So the ability to have that practice and to build that speed in order to do it quicker and do it better, and knowing I need to do more and more and more more and more quicker, quicker, quicker, you learn that with age, and every year I may I should be going faster than I was the year before with the decisions I make. And I went way too slow in my 20s because I had to learn how to pick the guitar, but I was also not prioritizing learning to play the guitar, I was prioritizing other other things.

So because you said tied it into birthday, you prioritize speed because you don't feel you're gonna be here much longer. That's why you prioritize speed. I don't I don't feel like you're going fast enough, you achieved enough. Is it because you wasted a lot of time in your 20s, but but you also have to admit, off camera, you said you don't feel like you're gonna be here much longer. I don't. Why? That's a let's just be honest, that's a horrible thing to think. That's not good. Why does Anthony think that? Is it horrible? Absolutely is. So let's explain why. This is coming from a gentleman that almost took his life, was on the brink of taking his life in the seventh grade, correct? Made it past that, became successful, opened two locations, beat that triumphant, has two kids, and is move and is primarily moving at a fast rate because he doesn't believe he's gonna be alive much longer. You remember the episode we did on grit? Yeah.

My fear, that firmone behind me that's pushing me ahead, is the fear of not living a long life. The cheese that the mouse is chasing is the ability to have a national company and change millions of lives and really leave a mark on this world. That's how that grid starts. If I don't have the fear of not being here much longer, I don't have the motivation pushing me from behind.

I see what you're saying. I get what you're saying. Yeah, the motivation that's good and dandy, but there has to be a deeper reason. How much longer do you think you have? If it's if someone asks you, how much longer realistically do you think you have, Anthony?

Just knowing like where my quality of life is gonna end up. Like even in 15, 16 years post-neck injury, I still have lingering issues from it. I fixed most things that I'm feeling great, but like still there's still days. So you really believe that? Yeah, that you got 50 very young. You think you're going in your 40s? So I think it's naive to think you have time.

No, and I get where you're going, but it's very, it's very seldom that you hear someone say, I got 15 years left at age 36. I got 15 good years left. Oh, okay. Oh, oh, oh good years, like being able to do real work.

So you think your your health is gonna deteriorate that much? I think my health, my uh, my mental capacity, the ability to be able to move quicker. Oh yeah. We're talking 53 years of age, and you're out of there. Like, I'm not I'm not gonna be able to do things like 20s to 30s. Loco, compare compare your 20s to your 30s, your energy levels.

No, I know that, but what do you okay? So, would you agree, Anthony, if I tell you that there's 50 years old, 50-year-old men and women that are healthy, still going, got the energy of a 30-year-old, still building, still, you know, energy.

Is that possible? Yeah, I am gonna optimize whatever I can to get to try to make sure I do get there. Trust me, health is in my bones. Yeah, I'm even looking into limiting plastic use, is something I decided recently to really start changing that. So, but yeah, I'm gonna do what I can. I'm gonna do what I can to be make sure I'm here as long as I can for my kids because of my wife, because that's the most important thing to me.

And and do you think that vitality has a lot it plays a large part on how we think?

Yeah, right. So if I think I have time, what am I gonna end up doing? I'm gonna doom scroll on my phone. I have tomorrow.

No, but can't we say that Anthony, and I get where you're coming from. I get I totally get it. If you tell your, but Elon Musk said it. If you tell yourself to you only got three days to clean the room, you know already. Everyone knows. Then you can clean the room in three days. You tell yourself you got 10 days, you clean it in 10 days. So I get that stance. But from a health perspective, if we start thinking more positively, don't you think that'll take a toll on your mental health? Telling myself, I have a lot more years left. I'm gonna be here for my kids, I'm gonna see them do this. Probably.

But I'm happy I'm not upset with it, upset with it. Okay. So you're okay with this? Yeah, I don't care. Like it's gonna have what's wrong with you, man. It's alive, huh? Right? So I want to live here longer. I want to be here super long. This guy's crazy. I know I'm out of my mind. But if something happens, it happens. That's your mentality. I have it's out of my control. Like, that's we had a conversation about religion. Like, whatever is gonna happen is I'm gonna do what I can. And I like to think of uh life as poker, right? So the analogy being that you're dealt a specific hand, right? And you have a couple of options, you can only change that hand so much, you can always change things to a certain extent and give yourself a probability of winning. For example, if I don't take care of my health at all and I just deprioritize everything, I'm stuck with those five cards. So this is five card poker. If maybe I say I choose not to drink or smoke, now I can exchange one of those cards for a new card and possibly get a better hand. If I decide to work out, not drink, not smoke, uh, and stress less, I can now exchange four of those cards for new cards to get a better hand to win. So you still might lose, right? But you're giving yourself a better opportunity to win.

Yeah.

And you can't say because I'm gonna do X, Y is gonna happen. I we know a lot of people who super prioritize their health and are dying at a heart attack at a young age. But on the same flip side, you're more probable of dying young if you don't take care of your health, you couldn't take care of your mental state, because you don't get a chance to get new cards. So you have to look at your health in that picture as a probability portion. So I can't say 100% certain I'm gonna be here for 30, 40, 50 years. I have no idea. But I can try to deal myself a better hand and I'm gonna do that. And to me, it's a motivator to think that I'd have much longer. Because listen, my wife lost a best friend when uh three years ago. So the girl was 27 years old, died. Brain oneurism showed my brother, uh, lost his best friend at 19 years of age. I lost a friend at 20 years of age. Like I've seen death of people who are too young to die. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like it's it can happen. So why not take every opportunity you have and think I might not be here? So I need to make sure I optimize my time. I need to optimize what I'm doing and go quicker because if I start thinking I have 20 years to do something, I ain't it's gonna push it off.

And I get that mentality, and now all of us are on the time limit, everyone, because you don't know when your next, you know, the the the time God's gonna call you. You don't know when it's gonna end. All of us on the time limit, but at the same time, we can have a positive way of thinking and saying, I am gonna be here for that. But to me, it is positive. Uh that puts you in a state of fear, and in doing so, now you're moving quicker because you feel like my time is extremely limited.

But I'm always leveling myself up, and therefore I know I'm innately happy. Sounds weird. Yeah, I get I get that. It sounds weird. I am the happiest I've ever been in my life. Because I think this way. I towards we're talking outside. I gave up drinking just because I don't see the need for it. I don't even have any alcohol at all anymore. Like, why do I want to not feel the way I feel? I feel great. Like, I get to live for every moment. I am, yeah, I have shit going on in my life, but let me tell you what's going on in my life and the personal issues I have, and we all have them. I wake up in pain or family issues, whatever. But overall, it's like a grand scheme of things. Like, I'm happy because I know I'm moving. I have to, I know what I have to do. I have to move quicker. And I can move quicker. I have to reteach my that skill, move quicker, move quicker, move quicker.

I was I the other it's funny you're talking about quicker. We'll get back to time. The other day, I was in bed and I was sitting here, well, driving, I don't know which one it was, but I was like, I feel like I'm not moving fast enough. Do you ever get those thoughts at some show? Oh, every day. You get those thoughts. And I don't know how to, I'm like, damn it. Why some I feel like something's holding me back. I don't know what it is, though. I just feel like I'm not moving fast enough. Do you think it's a compare? Do you compare yourself? Do you is it comparison that does that?

I compare myself to where I want to be by the time I'm a certain age. So yes. How about other people? Do you see other entrepreneurs and you don't look at other okay, Harmosy or other people do you aspire? I don't want to be what he has. I have no aspiration for that. Like, I don't. I know the sacrifices you have to do to get there. Yeah. I'm not willing to give those up. Ah. But I compare myself to where I want to be in 10 to 15 years. Like, here's here's an example. My wife and I were just talking about moving. And we just had a hard deadline of next year. We're moving. I now gave myself one year to make this company run completely without me. And me being able to remote. I have to speed the title on it. If I don't give myself a deadline, ah, just another day. Now I understand. I have to give myself a year to get out of here because now I'm gonna move quick to make sure that happens. So when you told me that, I thought you were saying you're gonna roll over and croak.

No, I'm gonna Now I get you. You're giving yourself deadlines because you don't know how much longer you have on this earth. So if I give myself deadlines, I will get there way faster, which in turn gives me more time to enjoy with my family. That's why he's putting deadlines on stuff. Now I got it. Now let's talk a little bit about this. What did Anthony learn at 30? So Anthony's birthday is May 26th, correct? What did Anthony learn at 36 versus 35? What would the 36-year-old Anthony tell the 35-year-old guy? Let's go take a few seconds, just think through real quick what you learned this year. I'm like, okay, don't do that, don't do this.

Somebody can learn a lesson.

Have redundancies. Success is in the routine. And redundancies to the point of have someone own a job, like what in your company, but have someone check balancing that. Audit yourself. Look in yourself. And people talking and producing are two separate things. Go into that one. Go into that one. The people that talk the biggest game for you and say, I'm gonna make a dream come true, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this. Always the people stabbing you in the back.

Because they're trying to quote. Yes. I was listening to a podcast today, driving air. The loudest talkers, the ones that talk the most, the loudest talkers are usually the ones that have no substance. Not at all. It's those that just take action. So before that, you believed it. You were the guy that believed it prior to being shown that this is not true. You believed it.

Yeah, because part of me, and it took listen, well, humans. It took me nine years to learn this lesson. Nine years. Your employees are not your friends or your acquaintances, yeah, or anything. That's why I don't have friends. I I grew, I know that now. But like the point being, I knew the lesson and I understood the lesson, but I didn't enact the lesson. And actions everything. Yeah, yeah. And now I know when people are are talking and trying to try to find myself to be friends with them, they're and they're stabbing me back. Bye. Speed. Speed is everything.

Okay. So so you so you so now you know the signs of someone that's a bad employee or whatever the case may be. Someone that just talks in your life and doesn't produce. So when you see them talking, do you cut the show right there or you wait?

Well, I let the more you let people talk, the more they spill the beans.

Okay. What's another lesson Anthony learned from 35 to 36 in his life? Even we can even dabble into the personal life. What is something he learned that said, yo, if I can go back to the beginning of age 35, May 26, 2025, I would not have done this, that, and the third personal life.

The people you hang out with are everything. And the people you associate yourself with are everything. What did you learn? Something happened. That sometimes the closest people in your life, they don't do it out of a bad rap. It's not intentional. But when they start seeing you pull ahead, they want to grab you and bring you back down. I say it all the time. And I I don't think it's malicious. I just think, okay, I don't think it's outwardly malicious.

Okay.

Like it's not like, oh, screw you, I'm looking to do that. Of course, of course. But it's they feel bad about themselves, and they don't want to feel bad about themselves because they did not do that thing.

So therefore it's outwardly malicious. Because if someone had your best interest in it in your circle, I don't care how you feel about yourself, that's your fault. You would let me be successful. That's outwardly malicious. Those are the wrong people to hang out with. Those are bad people. Anthony, I'm not gonna say, you just did something for me, right? Do you benefit in that in that guaranteed? Do you no, you don't? Why'd you do it? Okay, then you could have done the other route. So no, no, no. I don't know. You know what I'm talking about. I don't know. No, I'm sorry. If I do, I'll think of it. Meanwhile, you did. You did know a way to help. Because you have to be good to people. Bingo. Karma. Do you believe in that? To an extent, yeah. Yeah. Well, go I believe fully. If you do wrong, I think it's gonna catch up to you. Some way, safe, or something's gonna happen to you. So if you just told me there's people in your life and you learn from 35 to 36 that knew if I allow Anthony to do this, that, and the third, it's going to in turn make me feel bad about myself.

Because he's going for here's a very specific thing. Okay. I know I mean to clear it, but this is was thinking about that first question. It's still sitting in my head about the lesson I learned in my personal life with the people I hang out with. Yeah. You can tell that someone doesn't care. Or I don't know the exact wording behind it, but you can tell they don't want like something about you succeeding turns them off. When you bring it up in a conversation about what you have going on in your life, please give me something. And they keep going back to the past.

Hey, hey, listen, let me touch on that real quick. Um, don't forget that thought. Let me tell you something. I love that he said that. I just heard this a month ago and then heard it again, I think yesterday. Yeah, yesterday. Patrick Beth David said, You wanna, and this comes from Robert Green, you want to know how you know someone's jealous of you or doesn't want you to succeed in your life? Tell them something good that's going on in your life. And you will notice one of the signs, there's multiple signs, but one of them is what you just said. They will continue to revert and speak about past events that occurred, or they will reduce your success. Oh, it's not that big of a deal. Yeah, everyone gets that. Or, hey, remember that time you you messed up, Anthony? Or remember when you're talking about? You know what's wild?

I see people at my wedding talking in a group of people about girls I used to be with. There you go. You see?

Because that's called that's called jealousy. That's why they're doing that. Why are we bringing that up? Like it's not my wedding. Because they're not happy that you're married. And this is they're not happy that you're married, they're not married, they're not happy in their relationship, and it's called jealousy. This is why a lot of entrepreneurs and successful people are lonely. Because it's very hard to find people that will just solely root for you because you are successful and you're making it. A lot of your success is a direct reflection on their life. That this guy made it further than me. I know this guy, Anthony. I know him. How did he get this? How did he get this? He's in a marriage, he got kids, they don't have this, and it's just like that's what you gotta be careful you hang out with, man.

Like, give an example for my friend John, right? My wife, uh, she's learning, I think she's learning this lesson now. She's up for she's younger than me. But like, I'll show her text and things I'll say in front of John. Like, I'll say it in front of her. I call him out. I'm like, bro, this is bullshit. You can do better. Like, you could do more. Why don't you do this? And she's like, Why do you talk to him like that? Oh, I love that. You gotta talk to him like that. Because he talks to me like that. You know what?

That's why I talk to me. Yeah, yeah, that's right. That's right. Because those are the friendships you need. People that uplift you, you uplift each other. That's it. Relationship is a ship, it's supposed to take you somewhere. If you have a relationship where you're just teaching someone and uplifting that, and it's nothing being reciprocate, what's the point? I tell him all something like that. You gotta call them out. Who wants a yes man around them?

I tell him do more, do more, do more, do more, do more, do more. And he's like, more, it's like more. Yeah.

And now look what happened to him. You see what's happening? Yeah. There you go. You need you need relationships like that, man. But you have to be careful. So Anthony, would you say that you had some snakes in your life that you had to cut the grass and see? Yeah. That you you had to say, you know, you think back to it.

It's so wild, like everything comes full circle.

Yeah, there's a point.

I remember as a kid. So we're like going back, back. Most of my uh male cousins were a little younger than me, like two to three years younger than me. When I wanted to do something, I'd be like, hey guys, let's go do this. They'd be like, Oh. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. But my brother, if he said let's do this, everyone followed. Why? They just attracted themselves to him. Why? I think I don't know. I think I think innately they wanted to be like him and they didn't like the different avenue I was going. It was everything. Every time I would have a suggestion to get squashed, my brother would say they would do it. And that it bothered me for years as a kid. Because it's like, I don't get it. Like, why when I say it? When I invite people over, no one answers me. By the way. When you would answer, everyone answers. We'd have a group chat, like we'll play a game Magic, and it's like, hey guys, you let's play Magic tonight. And no one answers me. And I tell Chris, hey, can you respond in there and say that you want to play tonight? So everyone else answers. So he would respond and then everyone else would answer. I So it's like, do these people really want me to win? Nah. Do they really give a fuck about me? Nah.

Like, it doesn't feel it. You know what's funny that I learned as I get older? This is gonna sound crazy. It's not gonna sound crazy. The second part sounds crazy. The first part's not. Most people don't give a rat's ass about you. I'm telling you straight up, they don't give a rat's ass. Do you care about people? Yeah, I do. 100%. Yeah. Yeah, I do.

Serious, I'm not just doing this show right now. No, no, no. Let's have a real conversation.

If if do you care about my success? Yes. Well because I love what you're doing. I love your mission. I wouldn't be here. I told you already. You know already. I wouldn't be here. I drive two hours. They can't. Why? I wouldn't be here. Yes, I love your mission. I would not put my face. People that know me know me. I'm not coming on this show. Why am I putting my face here for? No, dude. I'm here to shoot you. I don't want to be involved in the nigga. I love your mission. That's what gravitated me. Why would I drive two hours? That's insanity. No. That's why I asked you in the beginning, you probably don't remember, but when we first met each other, maybe like the first week or two, what do you want to do, Anthony? You want to, and I had a conversation with like, Anthony, we can go. The people that I that I love and gravitate towards, it's and that's natural with everyone, are people that have similarities to you, who you are. The one, the biggest thing that I love about you the most, and where you and I are very similar, is you have the mindset where you where you're never complacent. You want more, you want to conquer the world in a good way. You want to leave something behind, a legacy, and that is so hard to find people like that. Because most entrepreneurs, most, at least the ones that I've met, are just financially driven. There's money. It's just money. And the thing that changed it for me with you, and the reason why I want to see you be wildly successful, and I try to do anything I can to help that is your mission. Remember, you told me with Ghana? Remember that? I remember my words. But I remember that's what I'm saying, though. That's the stuff I remember. When you looked like you go to Ghana, I'm gonna donate $20,000. Remember all that? I said, if you go to Ghana, I'm gonna go with you. Yeah. I want to do something with you. But that's why I like you. That's the real reason. Your heart. You want to help people. And I want to. And I believe the universe, whatever you want to call it, God, I call it God, God blesses people like that. So when you find someone like that, like the wolf pack thing I was talking about before, as a wolf, you have to learn how to hunt alone. What that means is you gotta have your own backbone as a man. You gotta be strong, you gotta be mentally astute, wise. God will eventually show you those people and then you gravitate towards them. So when you find someone that has that mindset, family man, he wants to sacrifice, always giving, good heart, and wants to help people genuinely. How do you not build a relationship with people?

Here's a good example. Like I just started disassociating from friends and family for people who talk negatively about their spouses. I agree 100%. Because I don't want to be like that. I don't want to say, oh, the bull ball and chain is dragging me around. I don't want to hang out with people who love their spouse and talk about them in a positive light. Because that's how I feel, and I want to make sure that stays. So I want to surround and learn lessons from them.

You are who you surround yourself with. And one thing somebody said too, anyone, I don't do business with a man that cheats on his wife. And I didn't understand why he said when he first said it, I was like, um, that's a personal thing. No. If you'll cheat on the person that you sleep with every day, in bed, lay down, kiss, watch T every single day. Yeah, what do you think he's gonna do to me? I said, oh dude, I didn't think if you're doing the person wrong, you cheat on your wife, you're doing your kids dirty too. What do you think that guy's gonna do? You think he has loyalty to me? He's gonna do me dirty in business. I don't do business with guys like that. You cheat on your wife, you do that dirty stuff? I don't want to undo it because it's just a matter of time until you get over on me. Agreed. So, Anthony, bringing you back to that question, why did you ask that question? Do you yeah, why do you do you want to see me successful? Do you feel like people in your life don't are using you for something? Or I don't feel like they're being used.

Uh definitely not, actually, with most people in my life. But I think people say what they say and how they act, two different things. Okay. And I have people in my life that say they want it, but they're not willing to accept the sacrifices I have to make that come with it. Okay. So, good example. I work a lot. I know, yeah. Like my me taking time off, we were talking about this, is working 40 hours a week.

Yeah.

That's me having a low week, right? And when I'm on and I'm going and I'm pushing, I'm about 60, 70 hours. Or it's a Sunday here now, like as an example, right? So, people, why aren't you hanging out with us? Why aren't you doing this? Why aren't you coming to this? Why aren't you doing that? Because I care about my success and I want to do more. And if you cared enough, you really wanted to see me successful, and you truly push that, why does it matter if I'm not there for every single thing? I'll be there the important stuff, right? Want to be there for weddings, be there for big family gatherings. Good point. Yeah. You don't dissociate it completely and say, screw you forever. I don't agree with that philosophy because you want to have some boundary, like you want to have some family grounding. But when it comes to like daily stuff, like just come hang out, come have a beer with us, nah. You're not interested in that. I I wanna this is I'm losing time. Time is falling apart. Yeah, how how long does it take to develop a skill to be professional at a skill? Ten to 12 years. Repeat that. 10 to 12 years. Okay. Let's take 10 years for easy math. It's a decade. About, yeah, for me it's okay. How many decades do you have left in you?

Left? Maybe three to four.

Okay.

You can only learn I would like six. God will, but yeah.

You could only learn three to four new skills and be professional from this point in time. Why waste that time? Three to four.

Yeah.

I didn't say twenty, sixteen.

That's a good point.

Three to four skills you have left in you.

To that point, that is why they say focus on one. Did you hear that? It takes a decade to perfect something, monetize it, and be damn good at it. And when you spread your focus all over the place, just like the stovetop theory we were talking about, you gotta turn some of them stovetops off, man, and focus on one. Elon Musk is good at one thing that somebody else may not be good at, but he focused on that. He honed in on that one thing, and that's why he's wildly successful. So a lot of the reasons, a lot of the times why people are not successful, Anthony, is because they spread their focus all over the place. A lot of the times they're not successful is because they say yes to everything. The power of no, man. That's what I learned at when I turned 35. The power of no. The power of mental health space.

And talk about a big lesson I learned this year, which I've yet again had to relearn 75 times. It clicks. You do your best thinking when you have nothing going on.

God damn, that could be a whole nother episode.

Because I'm about to go in on that one. But it's true. 100%. If you keep going to events, you keep hanging out with people, you keep putting yourself in social situations, you're not preoccupying your headspace. Yeah. I need freedom to think. I need freedom to think. I need freedom to have space. I have to make something from nothing. I need that mental headspace.

It's so funny. It's so weird, dude. You said it today. I was listening to a podcast with John Hope Bryan said, the successful businessman entrepreneur. He said, I want you to notice something about the rich and the poor. No point, but people that are successful and those that are not. The successful people. This was amazing because I started to analyze the people that I know that are wobbly successful. I was like, he's right, he's checking everything. They prioritize simplicity. That's why oftentimes you'll see them in a normal shirt, jeans, simple. I said, check. I started thinking of one of my friends that's insanely successful and said, Hold on. I know you say something. You mean like wearing the same outfit every day? Kevin O'Leary doesn't. No, so my argument to that. Okay. Go ahead. Okay, okay. They prioritize simplicity. So I start going through the checkbox. I'm like, oh, the guy I know, 100 million plus a year. T-shirt. And I remember I used to say, I'm like, yo, this dude, I'm like, this guy don't wear it's just a t-shirt, jeans, sneak. Every day. Uh who else did it? Steve Jobs. If those that don't know, very simple. Every day. Kevin O'Leary, same thing. Kevin O'Leary's reasoning is time. Which I think most successful people, that's probably the reason. But we'll talk about it later. But time. Why think about what to wear and just grab the same thing? Kevin O'Leary has like, I think he said 15, 20, the same suits to each his own. But that's one thing, their priorities. The second thing to Anthony's point that he said, and I started thinking about he said, Do you notice when you go to a very affluent neighborhood? What do you find that's different from that from an impoverished neighborhood? Peace and quiet. I said, He said, Why? Because those of the successful need silence and peace and quiet to think to create. That's that's what they need.

Why don't they drink anymore? Because it got my brain all chaotic. Right? I need that peace and quiet, clear thinking. And here, and let's go even further.

You think rich people, this this is, I'm I'm and this is all on the this is why I'm getting all this right now. You know why you see a lot of rich people, successful people take vacations all the time? It's not just to enjoy and drink and have fun. That's why you go to the beach, you go to these islands, the lavish islands that cost so much. They're there with their laptop, they're thinking. Creativity comes from the environment you put yourself when it's peaceful and quiet and tranquil, you're able to think clearer. When it's boisterous and loud and wild, that's why he said, look at the comparison. They prioritize peace and quiet.

I never forget the trip I did the best thinking on. I still remember it. It was like so crystal clear. Came out with so many ideas. My wife and I, before we were married, went to Yellowstone and we hiked the Grand Tetons and then Yellowstone National Park. Fuck six-hour hikes we would go on. Wow. No music, just us. Oh, that's crazy. I like vividly remember the clarity I would get. Oh, and I used to go on like six, seven-hour hikes all the time. If that was my thing, that's insane. Sometimes 10, 12 hours, we're sick in the head. What the? Yeah, I'm like, it's kind of wrong. I learned two things. I learned I have a lot more in the tank than my brain wants me to convince. Like I could push myself further. I learned grit. Yep. I learned to think. And it took a good hour in for my brain to start like, oh, let's take some dots and put them together. But it took a long time to get there. Like, really. And then once I got an hour in, all of a sudden things started clicking. And I was like, Sarah, what about this? What about this? What about this? Segmodification. I was like, I know, but I'm thinking. What about this? What if we do this to this?

Wow. So before I ask this question, and you're right, because when I went to Puerto Rico when I was writing episode three of my TV show, that's when the ideas came. And it's not until someone highlights this when you realize, oh yeah, I put two and two together. Yes. Tranquil environments make me think more clearly, make better rash decisions. Boisterous environments don't. So now, with that being said, does Anthony prioritize that now? Try to make that prioritize. Do you look to go on vacations for that reason? Do you take time all alone or on these morning walks that you go on? Do you search for that silence, Anthony?

I search to learn, and it's been a little chaotic recently. Obviously, with two kids who went on vacation, but it was impossible to be alive. But they were adorable. But yeah, it's understanding that you need time away. And I really learned the value of having employees pick up things and me give myself space away. So I can look at a bigger picture and I can understand it to the point to go back to what I said in the beginning of the show. This time next year, by the time I'm 37 years old, he's gone. I'm leaving New York. He's gone. What is the biggest ROI I get from leaving and moving to a state I know nobody?

Oh, peace. Peace. No, no one pointing the finger at you. No responsible. Oh, you have to do this. You're a bad guy. No, peace, new life, fresh. That's why a lot of people are afraid to leave, man. A lot of people are afraid to pack up and leave. And sometimes, a lot of the times, that's where growth comes up, comes from. Can do you have the fortitude to leave, Anthony? Do you have it? Only. You have it in you to say bye. There's no strings anymore. It's gonna be hard. Oh, it's not easy. I didn't say it's easy, but can you do it?

Signing that lease, that first one I signed. Like, oh, there's no going back. There's no go, but that's what I'm saying. But I know I thrive in those situations. Thrive. You put me in like bottom of the ninth, need a hit, or you're done. You're doing it. You're that kind of guy. I only work under pressure. I do my best work when I'm in and I'm learning and I have opportunity to think and I come with solutions that could be like, oh, I understand. I need to make this work.

So what do you think Anthony's gonna do differently here at 36 years old now? Move quicker. That's what this is what you're taking in.

That's number one. Okay. I'm moving quicker. I'm done with slowness. Okay. And I I even thought of this a couple weeks ago. I was telling my employees, like, we're done. This let's go. I'll get to you in a week.

Oh, yeah, that that game, yeah. It's done.

Yeah. We're gonna move quicker, yeah, and quicker and quicker, and some of you are gonna fall off the train.

That's what I was about to say. Now, now is Anthony is Anthony okay with moving fast to the point where he has to leave some people behind in his life. You are okay with that. Oh, yeah, we're going.

Not just employees, life to grow so life. Yeah, we're running out of time. Everything. I need to leave a legacy on this world. You feel like your time running out of time? And I need to I want to be there for my kids, my wife, and show them that look what my dad did. Talk. That's what I want. That's what I'm trying to do too. I that's what I'm trying to do too. How? And we're gonna have a whole episode about this because how can you be a good parent if you don't practice what you preach? Come on. It's you can't tell your kids, I want straight A's, I want you to be successful, I want you to be healthy, and you don't do it. Yep.

It's go to the gym, all this stuff. You don't even listen to you. No, I don't. You have a round stomach eating pretzels in the house and look, and you want me to work out?

My son looks at me and goes, Wow, dad did all of that. That's hard. Oh, if dad did it, I can do it. Exactly. That's that's the lesson. Is I'm gonna success is their starting point. 100%. I want to show them what is possible. I'm not gonna hold them back. And therefore, you're not gonna let anyone hold you back. And I'm gonna push them. For an example, I saw on a reel. There was a dad and he had two kids. And every year on their birthday, he would race them. And he told them, if you win, I'll give you a hundred bucks. Never let them win. And he said, What I noticed, because I've done this for years, my kids got faster and faster and faster and faster than one. He almost lost the last time. Like, actually almost lost. But it makes them love the race and love the competition and love the push. I looked at my son and he's only one and a half, so he doesn't know how I'm saying. I was like, Dad's never letting me go. You looked at him and said, My wife is there to be the nurturing. That's the job. That's the job. She's gonna nurture them. She's he gets hurt, she's gonna hold him, love him. I'm like, get back up. That's it.

You know what's funny? My daughter was crying. Um, and I guess she's used to her mom comforting her and all that stuff, and she was crying. And I remember just looking at her and say, Stop. She's getting uh eye level with her. I said, Stop crying. No one's coming to save you. Stop. And slowly the crying went away. Week passed. She was put on her shoes, or she tried to put on her shoes. Two years old. And she said, I can't do it. I don't know where that came from. Maybe daycare. I never heard her say that before. Never heard that before. And I got down on my knees and said, You can. Don't ever say that word. You can't. I don't know where she learned that from. That's why you put your kids out in the world scary. They pick up these traits from other kids. You can. And she did it. And my point is sometimes they just need that push to know my dad is present, but also make them aware of the fact that I won't always be here. And that's why you have to fight. Because when I'm going, you take these lessons and you pass it down so that we have a strong family legacy and tree. So redefined grows. Because if I don't teach you this, when I go, this burns. Because I raised somebody that's very weak-minded, always looking for handouts and help. And this is the result of me babying and coddling. So you gotta be able to say no to your kids. You gotta be able to let them and motivate them, encourage them, but but at the same time, take a step back and allow them to fail. You have to allow them to fail. And I love that racing thing that you told me. So at 36, Anthony is adopting speed. We got that. All throughout his life. What has Anthony learned at age 36 by be from being a dad? What has Anthony learned going into age 36 from being a dad?

Everything you do is a direct reflection on your kids and what they expect to learn and understand. And I don't owe anyone anything when it comes to being around my kids. They're my kids. I'm gonna raise them the way I want to raise my kids, I'm gonna teach them the lessons I want to teach them, and I'm going to make sure that they end up better than I ever was. Like showing them that they have to hold accountability for everything. Accountability is leverage. It's the biggest, most important trait you can teach your kids. Teach them accountability, teach them how to learn, teach them how to grow. And I want to be that parent to my kids.

That's your number one priority. That's it. That's number that's number one. Yeah.

And if that means moving and leaving everything from here behind, so be it. Like it's gonna happen. If that means stressing the business out a little bit and pushing things quicker and harder, I'm gonna do it. You're gonna do it for it. Because my kids matter more than anything. My family matters more than anything in the world. Just because you're an employee, doesn't if you screw up and treat me wrong and steal from me and belittle me, you're not just hurting me, you're hurting my kids.

Yes.

That's the big difference right there. Now, now we I don't care if you hurt me.

You hurt them, it's over for you, dude. It's over for you. I'm not it's no sympathy. No, none at all. You gotta go. And I think that kind of mentality is the only way you grow. If you get entrepreneurship, is you grow as a person. The ability to say no, take accountability, and your why has to change from hustling and grinding and working for yourself, and has to change for doing it for someone else. That's where you really see growth, is when your why changes from I'm doing it for me, I want to be successful, I want a lavish life. That's nothing wrong. That's whatever you want you want. But once it changes from I'm doing this for them, my mother's counting me, my dad's counting me, my kids counting me.

I no longer have 80 hours a week to work because I want to be home for my kids. Yes. There's a difference working 80 hours a week and never seeing your kids. No, no, no. My priority is to make every minute count. Okay. So it's more about having more productivity in a week than kids.

All right, all right, all right.

I learned if I move quicker, I can condense 80 hours into 50. Now I now okay, okay. So now I have 30 more hours I can spend in my family.

That's why you don't want your time being wasted. Correct. Now I got you. Any any words you can give to somebody that just turned their birthday's coming up as well, they're a little younger than you, what advice would you give them? They're not in a record place.

You can never be as young as you are today. And That means you'll never have the opportunity have to screw up. So screw up as much as humanly possible because that's how you're gonna learn. And not screw up in the way. I'm gonna phrase it. Not screw up in the way of drinking, going out. That shit.

That's what I was like.

Start something, do something, put something out there. Try to push yourself to be successful because you have nothing, and that's the most important leverage you have in the world. It doesn't matter if you go bankrupt. You live at home with your parents, pay nothing.

Who cares? Take the shot. Do it when you're younger. That's the time. When you get old, you get responsibility. It's a lot harder when you fail. You can't stop saying work life balance when you're freaking 20 years old. 100%.

If you're 20, 22, 24, whatever society tell you those ages, that it's work life balance like I used to succumb to, biggest lie you've ever been told in your life. You should be going 70 hours a week. You gotta move hard going and going and going. So when you have kids and they're born, you look at them, see, I could be there for them now.

So your birthday, and Anthony and I agree on this, your birthday is just a reminder that I'm closer to the end. That's for me at least. Anthony, would you agree with that? I totally agree with that. And that means you just gotta move faster. Find a way to cut, not shortcut, but just find a way to get to that goal faster. Because the birthday means nothing wrong with celebrating, but once that celebration is done, you need to spend the same amount of time, if not more, time, calculating how can I get to my goals faster? Because a birthday just means I got one step closer to the end.

So if you just had a birthday and you got a birthday coming up. What is something in your life right now that over the last year you could take accountability for and then use it to make yourself better the following year? Comment that answer below so someone else can help learn that lesson and move and grow. Don't forget, like, subscribe, share. See you then.

But we can't leave yet. It's Anthony's birthday. It's Anthony Avid's birthday, man. So, Anthony. I believe in giving back to the people that give to you and honoring them. That's the whole point of presence and stuff. That's what it's what it really is. It's just honoring the people that you think are good and been an asset to your life. So I got you something, man.

Oh God. Huh?

Well, this is why you wanted to do the episode.

I got you something. Anthony? I know you like coffee. Anthony likes coffee, everyone. Oh, thank you so much. I got Anthony something from Starbucks, man. Oh, this will be gone in two days. Two days? Oh yeah. But I know what won't be gone in two days. I'll be right back. Oh God.

I don't even know anywhere he's going with this. He literally walked out of the room.

Not my boy.

Oh my gosh.

I got my boy something. Check it out.

It's another shirt because you're sick of my shirts. No, no, no. Oh.

Oh.

I got Anthony some new kicks, man. Oh, you're so tired of my shoes. Oh shit. I know Anthony goes walking every day running, so I went to Nike and got Anthony. Is that the right size? Size 12? Size 12, yeah. Okay, I remembered. Yeah. He told me a couple months ago size 12. So I'm gonna get got some sneakers, man. Holy shit. Anthony, man. Thank you for um collaborate me. Bring me on. These are match our new apparel coming out. Oh shoot, yeah. New shirts coming out. Uh accountability is leverage. Happy birthday to Anthony and everyone. Thank you, man. Appreciate it. It's a great guy. You deserve it, man. Great father, great husband. And um, I think Anthony, I learned a lot from you, man. And happy birthday, my friend.

I appreciate this a lot. You didn't have to.

Yeah, you deserve it, man. Now you can like, comment, subscribe. We're out. Thanks, guys.